We are living in a world where everyone is looking
for a Father figure whether male or female. God made it so that an ideal family
would have a father and a mother to show order and bring stability in the home.
Even the Holy Trinity is composed of God the Father, God the Son and
God the Holy Spirit displaying order. A father
figure nowadays is so important for our young women as well as for
our young men. But often times in many cases the fathers are absent for one
reason or the other not realizing the damage it causes not only to
the mothers who have to be both father and mother but also to the
children involved.
A father is not only someone whose
sperm unites with and egg resulting in the conception of a child! That is
not where his role ends!! in fact that is where his role begins.A father is not
only a man that acknowledges his
responsibilities but it is a man that would go to any length to ensure
his family is safe ,lead his family as God leads him and above all show
the fatherly love that every son and daughter so long for.
Many young men longed
to hear their dad say "Well Done Son! I knew you could do it"
whilst young woman longed to hear "You are beautiful and you'll always
be my little princess". But unfortunately many young men and young
women never got to hear these sentences that many others raised by their father
as well as their mother take for granted.
And when that happens we see many young
men walking around with no confidence in themselves not understanding what
respect is and how to earn it searching and yearning for that fatherly love in
anything as long as it looks like it's the real thing; and because of that
they'll go to any length to fill that void inside of them I.e
gangs,being womanizers jumping from one woman to another and many
more length seeking affection, acceptance, a sense
of purpose and respect.
Many young women struggle with low
self-esteem seeking for someone to affirm them as long as they feel accepted
and valued. Leading to too many being lead astray, being lured to love and be
loved by someone that doesn't even know what love is and how to show it instead
they'll show you what they think love is.
If you're out there and you've grown
without a father and have experienced the feelings above. You are not alone!
There are many people out there suffering and hurting and I was one of them!
Psalm 68:5a says that God is "a
Father to the Fatherless". If you're looking for a father that
will fill this void inside you that only God can and that will love you Let God
Father You!
I've been there, seen it and I know
what you're going through! Let me share a little testimony!
I'm the oldest of three, I have two
brothers and I was raised by my mum!
My mum miscarried before she had me and
when she got pregnant with me my dad wanted me aborted and did not want
to have anything to do with the pregnancy; born two months early with my
mum suffering from preeclampsia thank God my mum and I made it!.
My dad then left my mum with three
children age 5, 3 and 6 months.At the age of 29 she was left with three
children! Thank God she was saved and allowed God in.
From a young age I felt rejected and
unloved by the one who should have been there for me! Comfort me when I'm
crying, tell me how beautiful I was and how much he loved me. Instead of that
when my dad was supposed to come and see us we'd wait for him excited and
looking forward to seeing him then we would have the harsh news from my mum
"Sorry Darlings, Daddy said that He couldn't make it" or in other
instances he would send his girlfriends to drop our Christmas presents or
occasionally on our birthday if he remembered.
Growing up I suffered from low
self-esteem.Never thought I was beautiful enough or good enough always felt
rejected somehow even though I was surrounded by a caring and loving
family.
Then last year where God made me
realize that I was so busy looking for a father figure and fatherly love
in man,in positions and places that I hardly paid attention or even asked God
who is love to father me, love me and fill this void inside.1 John 4:8 (NIV
version) says Whoever does not love does
not know God, because God is love.
I was so hungry for
God, tired of being disappointed by people that I went down on my knees
and asked God to reveal to me what His love is and for God to father me.
And the revelation of God's love wasn't only made clearer through revelations of who he is but it was as if a void inside of me had been filled with a feeling of security, warmth,confidence and love that I had never felt or even experienced before; and as I grow in God daily, He keeps on showering me with his love.
One thing God made realize is that as the bible says in Hebrews 13:8
" Jesus is the same yesterday, today and forever"God does not
change!.Which means that God's love is unconditional, irrespective of your
condition.Whatever you do God loved,loves and will always love. So by you
putting your confidence, your self-esteem and your trust in Him,regardless of
what you do His mind about you remains the same. But men we change like the
weather, we love you conditionally in respective of your condition.One day
we'll hype you and be on your side, but the next day if you mess up we start
looking at you funny and our attitude towards you changes.
Let it encourage you! Sisters!!!Stop selling yourself short and chasing everything you think is love or looks like love but chase the one who is the definition of Love itself!Let Him father you! Let him show you your worth! Let him tell you "You are beautiful and you'll always be my little princess". He will fill that void in your heart and love you the way you truly deserve. Not only will he show you how to be loved but he'll show you how to love
Brothers! It's time to man up and stop trying to earn respect and love without knowing the one who is Love itself! The one who will teach you how to respect, be respected, the one who will always tell you "Well Done Son! I knew you could do it" the one who will fill the void of that fatherly love that you've always longed for!! He can do it brothers! I know He can!!
Let it be an encouragement to you all!! If God did it for me He can do it for you too!
All you have to do is let him in!
I would like take this opportunity to give a massive Shout Out to My mother Sylvia Matanda!Thank you for all the sacrifices you made and how you've taken care of us!!! Love you mum!
And to all the single mothers out there who are working hard to raise their children in the fear of God to become all that God wants them to be!Be encouraged! Keep striving and keep on keeping on for in due time you will reap if you faint not!
Remember I Love you all but God loves
you more!
Valencia
